There are so many strange little superstitions and misconceptions around tarot readings, and unfortunately, they can really impact the quality of your reading, and the messages you receive.
One of the muddiest areas is about what kind of questions to bring to a tarot reading. I’ve had some clients express complete surprise when I’ve asked if they would like to focus their reading on a question or a topic: “Oh! I didn’t know I was allowed to ask anything.”
Of course you can ask questions! It’s one of the best ways to make the most out of your tarot reading.
Remember that any tarot reader – or anyone doing intuitive work, regardless of the tools they use – is working to put the messages they are receiving into some kind of context for you.
So when someone shows up to a reading with a question that they are hoping to get clarity on, but they don’t let their reader know about it, then that client can leave feeling more confused than before. The messages that come through might sound jumbled or disconnected, or even irrelevant.
This can leave someone feeling disappointed with their reading overall, as they didn’t get what they had hoped for. And it won’t make the tarot reader feel any better, either. Most people do this kind of work because they want to help others, not to have them leave with less clarity than when they came in.
Yes, you can always go into a reading without a question at all. It’s called an open reading, and it’s a great way to find out what you might need to be aware of at the time, or to get a read on what’s on the horizon overall.
So what’s the best way to get a great reading? Here are some tips to help you out:
1. First, get to know the tarot reader you are going to see.
Check out their blog or their website. What do they specialize in? What is their style?
Look for a reader who echoes the things you are looking for. If you need motivation or clarity, find a reader who you feel might inspire you into action.
Some tarot readers specialize in certain areas of focus, such as relationships, while others are more general in their approach.
Find someone who resonates with you, and who you feel you can trust. Entering into a reading with an open mind and open heart will go a long way in helping your tarot reader to connect with you.
If you go in with walls up, or feeling like you need to test someone out first, it could affect the reading you receive.
2. Understand what you’re hoping to gain from your reading, even if you don’t know what you need.
If you’re going in for an open reading, let your reader at least know where you’re at. You might find that there is in fact a question that surfaces for you as you do:
“I’ve been in a rut for a while. I feel stuck in my life. I know I need to change something, but I don’t know where to start. Can the cards help to give me some insights?”
“I feel really called to get a reading right now, but I’m not sure why. I am wondering if there is something I need to be aware of at this time.”
3. Be specific.
You don’t have to give away your entire life’s story, but try to be clear about what it is you want to know about if you are seeking clarity on a specific issue.
For example, I remember reading at an event one time when someone sat down with a question.
“There is a lot of conflict in my family right now and I just wanted to know if it will be resolved.”
Overall, this is pretty vague. Was the conflict with this person’s parents, or siblings? Was there a will or inheritance that someone was fighting over? Was there a disagreement between in-laws?
I had no idea. There are so many possibilities when I hear the term “family conflict.”
It turned out the family conflict was actually about this person and their spouse, who they were thinking of divorcing. To me, I would have called that a relationship question, which only serves to highlight the importance of making sure readers and clients understand each other from the start.
Knowing the true nature of this person’s question helped me to shape the reading and explore additional questions the client had, which we wouldn’t have been able to do if I was left to guess otherwise.
This also happens with relationship readings. Someone might ask, “I’m wondering what I need to know about my love life this year.”
So how about:
“I broke up with my girlfriend last month. I didn’t think I could get over it, but to my surprise, I’ve developed a crush on someone else. Is it too early for me to move on?”
See the difference? The more specific your question, the better your reader can help you. Rarely are we living with complete blank canvasses when it comes to the various aspects of our lives. There is always deeper context to work within.
4. Be open to exploring other options.
You might have heard that it’s best not to ask yes or no questions, but instead to keep things open-ended.
Tarot can be used for yes or no questions, but a lot of readers (including myself) don’t really recommend it. For example, if you are looking for a new job and ask, “Will I find a new job?” your odds are probably pretty good, tarot cards or no tarot cards, if you’re already getting yourself out there.
Where tarot’s power really comes through is in helping to give you a deeper reflection of who you are, who you are meant to be, and where you are going.
So let’s take another question: “I’ve been talking to a guy for three years. He knows I like him, but he won’t commit to a relationship with me. Can you tell me if he ever will?”
This is where a tarot reader can help unpack this a little more, if the client is willing. One question I might suggest exploring – with the client’s agreement, of course – could be, “How can I move on from this person?” Or, “How can I open myself up to new relationships?”
Because while we could look at what might happen with things as they are, off the top it sounds like a situation where one person’s feelings are not being reciprocated, and after three years, that might not be likely to change. It’s a long time to wait.
So as a tarot reader, my role can be to help a client open up to other ways of seeing the situation, rather than hanging on to something that might not be in their best interests in the end. Ultimately, they’ll still be the ones to decide how they want to move forward, but at least this way, they might have a better understanding of it all after their reading.
And so staying open to a reader’s suggestions for additional questions or areas to explore can be very helpful. Not all clients want this – some just need that yes or no – so again, finding a reader who resonates with you is going to be key in order for you to get the most out of your tarot reading.
Oh, and make sure to work all of this out before your session. That way you can dive right into your messages once your appointment starts.
Until next time!