How are things going for you? Do you celebrate the holidays?
Whatever you’ve been up to these past week, I hope it’s been enjoyable.
For me, I never know how I’ll feel during the holiday season. Last week, I talked a lot about the importance of slowing down at this time of year, and yet it can be so hard to do. The amount of pressure some people experience can be directly related to familial expectations, or to the types of jobs they work. It can be financial pressure, or a time crunch, or just the pressure to please as many people as possible.
Still, some love the rush of the season, and there is nothing wrong with that at all.
But then there’s the other side of the holidays. It really can be a very lonely time. After my father died a few years ago, and my mom sold the home we’d all lived in, I started to feel much more divorced from the holidays overall.
My mom was always very much into Christmas. My dad? I think he could take it or leave it.
But for me, it always represented a time when I could go home, bring a backpack full of books, and sit and read in between chats with my parents. I would go for long walks around my old neighbourhood, visit with old friends, and make epic to-do lists for the New Year.
My family was never into the idea of tradition. We never had a lot of people over. I don’t have any siblings. Christmas was always a small, casual affair for us, but I built my own traditions around it.
Except without my dad, who was one of my best friends, and without our old home, it all changed. And ever since, I’ve been trying to figure out what I might be able to create for myself now. My partner and I don’t have any kids, at least not yet, and my mom lives further away now, and has found love with another man.
Things change. I know this. But it doesn’t mean they aren’t mourned. Somehow, the holidays heighten the gaps that the past left behind.
And yet, when I pulled a card for this week, it was the Ten of Cups – a card of emotional harmony, happiness, and joy.
I often connect this card to personal value systems. It’s a card that seems to ask, “What is most important to you?” The suit of Cups is about love and relationships, emotions and intuition. It’s not about money, success, or status. This suit reminds us to pay attention to our hearts.
It was a good reminder that it’s okay for me to prioritize my own feelings right now, and to find a new sense of joy and harmony that works for me. My idea of happiness during the holidays may look and feel different than someone else’s, and that’s okay. I don’t need to let myself be pulled along any which way.
So whatever you might be feeling these days, take note from this card. Remember that you don’t have to let someone else dictate your value system, whether that’s now or in the year to come.
There is also a New Moon in Capricorn coming up this Thursday, December 29. This means that for anyone born under the sign of Capricorn, their New Year will come a few days early, as this Moon will act as a time to set some important intentions for what you’d like to accomplish in the year ahead.
Even if you are not a Capricorn, that’s okay – this is a Moon that can work for everyone. It’s an ambitious sign, and an independent one. Capricorn is symbolized by the mountain goat, which is always climbing to new heights.
Maybe something has come to light for you this month that you now want to rise above. Maybe you are feeling compelled to push yourself towards higher ground, to a place that will allow you to feel more in tune with your true values, rather than being lost in the shuffle of someone else’s expectations.
Go big with what you’re envisioning. The Ten of Cups encourages the heart to lead the way, but Capricorn’s New Moon will give you the grounded perspective you need to make it a reality.
If it helps, here is a mantra for you to work with throughout the week:
I honour my own values.
And if you have a tarot deck of your own and would like to use it to connect with this week’s New Moon, here is a spread you can try at home:
1. What is one value I must prioritize at this time?
2. What goal can this help me to reach in 2017?
3. What will I need to rise above in the process?
4. What will be waiting for me at the top?
Have a wonderful week. All the best as we move toward a New Year.
Until next time,
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