Red flags are a hot topic these days.
And there a lot of good reasons for that. I bet we all have at least a handful of regretful or painful experiences that, in hindsight, could have been avoided if only we’d paid attention to the signs.
In service-based work like tarot reading, coaching, or other one-on-one offerings, there’s a lot of advice out there on how to attract your “ideal client.”
Because no one wants to sit down to read tarot for someone who turns out to be a less-than-stellar client, right?
Afterall, you don’t go into business for yourself just to feel like you’re being bossed around by a bunch of pain-in-the-butt customers.
Before I go further, I will say there’s a big difference between choosing “ideal clients” versus feeling like someone is a potential threat to your safety. Obviously, if you feel unsafe, that’s a red flag to watch for.
Outside of that, there are a lot of other recommendations out there...
Ego is something you hear about a lot.
It comes up in spiritual conversations, therapy sessions, tarot readings, and self-help books.
Maybe you’ve talked about your own ego, or felt the weight of someone else’s ego.
We all know at least one person who’s got a larger-than-life ego.
Take my late friend, Nik Beat, who was a poet and performer. Nik used to introduce himself on stage by saying, “The ego has landed.”
But is ego bad, or good?
Something I hear a lot from my clients and students is that they worry about making “ego-based decisions.”
When we dig a little deeper into what they mean, there is usually a lot of guilt under that statement:
Guilt about being selfish, putting yourself first, or prioritizing your happiness.
Is it wrong to follow an ambition? Is it wrong to enjoy your life?
I don’t think so.
To be honest, if I always put my own desires last, then I wouldn’t have done much so far.
A lot of people...