People are often attracted to esoteric practices like tarot because they want to know the fastest way to get from A to B.
And the occult seems to promise short cuts and hacks to fast-track your success.
While I don’t think it hurts to throw in a little bit of magic into your life now and again, it’s important to remember that spells, prayers, meditations and affirmations can only get you so far.
If you don’t have the right attitude, mindset, or structure in place in your life to hold onto what you want to create, then all the magic in the world won’t save you.
This is a big mistake I see tarot readers make when they are trying to build their skills.
Whether you’re brand new to tarot, or you’ve been studying for years, if you’re relying too much on the “woo” to do the work for you, then you might not be seeing the progress you want.
There are three things I think everyone needs to nail if they want to get good at reading tarot...
It is my belief that tarot is for everyone, and that it can be beneficial in many situations when used appropriately.
Like any tool, it will only work she applied with the proper skill and intention.
If you are getting a tarot reading, your emotional and intellectual perspective will also play a role in how that reading goes. It’s important to be in an open state of mind, ready to receive information.
I have had clients in the past who were clearly not ready for tarot and sometimes, I have had to cut sessions short because querents were so nervous or scared.
As a tarot reader, I won’t always know where you are at emotionally when you book an appointment. It is up to you to know whether you are ready and willing to give tarot a try.
Here are 3 signs you might not be ready for a reading:
1. You have immense guilt about it, to the point where you can’t enjoy your reading. I once had a client break down in tears because they felt like they were going against their religion...
If you’ve spent any time at all following new age practitioners, you’ve likely heard the phrase, “Go with what resonates with you.”
This saying permeates new age spiritual culture of all kinds: It shows up in tarot workshops and healing sessions. You see it in books and hear it on YouTube channels.
It’s meant to be taken as guidance or advice to help a student or client figure out what their next step is. Sometimes, it’s given during times of confusion, as though to say, “Just go with what you feel.”
Confusion itself doesn’t get us very far, does it? When you’re not sure whether you’re coming or going, and you’re unclear as to whether you’re supposed to do this or that, things can go one of two ways:
You stay stuck and keep repeating the same old patterns, knowing you need to take different actions but you’re not sure what they are, or…
You act on emotion, impulse, or intuition and hope...
The end of the year can be one of the busiest seasons for tarot readings.
Everyone wants to know what’s coming up in the year ahead:
"Will this be the year I find love?"
"Will my business be more profitable?"
"Will I move or change jobs?"
Overall, these are pretty common questions that people bring to tarot readers all year round – regardless of the calendar date.
Which is why, a couple of years ago, I started to question my own attachment to doing New Year’s readings for my community.
One thing that I grappled with was that life is not linear. Many of the things we are hoping for don’t just magically fall into place just because we changed the date on the calendar.
And so to expect that a certain date is going to signify something – be it love, success, or any other kind of goal – didn’t feel quite right.
Especially because some of the things we are hoping for in the New Year require some kind of planning or action.
I also realized that New...
Halloween, Scorpio season, Samhain, All Soul’s Day…
No matter what you name this time of year, ancestors become a popular theme about now.
It is believed the veil is at its thinnest these days, and that the spirits around us are close. People build altars to honour the dead. We burn candles for our ancestors, maybe leaving out their photographs or favourite libations in remembrance.
Maybe you already have an ancestral practice for this time of year. Maybe you’ve only heard bits and pieces of these ideas, your curiosity piqued by beautiful altar photos on Instagram or blog posts that offer some quick tips about ancestral work.
I used to follow all of that advice. Each October, when the Sun moved into Scorpio, I would start to set up an ancestor altar. I would adorn it with candles and mementoes, photographs and seasonal offerings.
And then, as we got into mid-November and Halloween had come and gone, I had no idea what to do with that altar.
So I would disassemble...
One of the most problematic beliefs that comes from the spiritual industry is that everything is your fault.
If you’re not happy enough, successful enough, or in love enough, then it must because you’re not thinking the right thoughts.
Or you’re not raising your vibration high enough to attract what you really want.
Or you’re just not putting in the work to be who you want to be.
Sometimes there are things that are holding us back that we did not – and would not – choose for ourselves.
For years, I struggled with crippling shyness when I was growing up. It held me back from opportunities that I desperately wanted – but I couldn’t bring myself to be the way I wanted to be.
But that shyness wasn’t just mine. It was part of a coping mechanism that I’d developed over the years, and it was a behaviour that I’d been programmed to adopt into my identity.
The environments I’d grown up in had told me that girls should be...
“You’ve got to be willing to do the work.”
We’ve all heard this kind of advice before.
It applies to pretty much anything in life, such as goal-setting: If you want something, you need to put the effort in to get it.
It also applies to personal growth. We say things like, “He’s done a lot of work on himself,” or, “I’m taking some time away to work on myself.”
What this “work” looks like is so varied and personal that it’s not always easy to know exactly what it is everyone is working on, or how they are doing it.
The work of your life may be very different than mine. We all have our own lessons, journeys, and gifts. We also have our own challenges to overcome.
Some people figure out what their “work” is sooner than others. And some of our work may be work that takes a lifetime to understand.
There is no way to rush through it, no arbitrary deadline you can reach where you suddenly become an...
One of the most common questions I get from other tarot readers is, “Do you read reversals?”
It comes up whenever I teach a class, whether it’s to a group of beginners or advanced readers.
(And for anyone not familiar with reversals, it’s when a card is upside down in a reading.)
I don’t read reversals – but I used to. I picked up the technique when I was studying tarot, and used it regularly by the time I started reading tarot professionally.
But I gradually stopped reading reversals.
Why? It’s not because they don’t work – they do (if you’re clear and consistent in how you’re using them).
The reason reversals dropped out of my tarot practice is that I just didn’t need them anymore. I had started to develop new styles of card reading and the way I was working with tarot didn’t require reversals anymore.
I started to see that the way I was looking at a reversed card – whether it was a challenge,...
Last week, I had a dream.
If you follow me on Instagram, you may have seen a brief mention of it there.
I am sharing it here today, and elaborating on some thoughts I’ve had since.
Before I get into it, let me say that I acknowledge that there is a lot of fear, anxiety, and uncertainty in the world right now.
I am going to be speaking truthfully here. I know you don’t come to me for the “good vibes only, love and light” stuff.
But I also know that many of us are tender right now. Tired, worried, and burned out from checking the news all the time.
So if you need a break, bow out now. You can always come back to this later.
Here’s what I have to share today:
I have had a long relationship with the dream world and believe that when you are called to something in a dream, you need to pay attention and act upon it as best you can.
Last week I had such a dream and was asked to deliver a message.
The Earth spoke to me in my dream.
And She was pissed...
Staying healthy as a tarot reader can be tricky, especially if you do a lot of in-person work at parties, events, or one-on-one.
A lot of us readers are often working in public spaces like stores, coffee shops or fairs.
Here's what I do to stay healthy when I'm working out in the public.
(Note that I am not a health professional and can only speak to what works for me. ALSO - follow local health guidelines during Covid!)