I used to follow a blogger who went onto become quite famous in the self-help industry.
I fell in love with stories she shared about breaking away from “what no longer served” her.
Reading that blog led me to look for similar people and stories.
Any time I read about someone who was quitting their job, closing their business, or moving to another country, I felt excited.
I hungered for people who were making big changes and taking huge leaps of faith.
I got a rush when I heard that someone was no longer taking clients. Or when they were going on sabbatical.
There is something exciting about the idea of breaking free and starting fresh.
I notice that I crave these kinds of stories when I’m craving change.
What we look for in the world to influence us is often a reflection of what we need to experience for ourselves.
We live in an intensely goal-oriented society. We learn a lot about aim and achievement. But we lack lessons in boredom, fatigue, and...
What do you when you lose a tarot card from a favourite deck?
I personally haven’t lost a card (yet).
But I also take steps to prevent cards from straying when I’m out doing readings at parties, events, or shops:
But if something happens and a card gets lost?
Here are some options:
First, make sure the card is truly lost. I am a clumsy shuffler and have had cards end up under the couch, slide under my laptop, or flip well...
At my last day job, I worked with a woman who would sometimes pause our conversations and say, "I know it’s off-topic, but can I talk about your tattoos for a second?"
"Sure," I would say. I’ve been getting tattooed for over 20 years. People often have questions.
One day, my colleague finally told me why she was so curious about them. "I really want to get the name of my son tattooed right here," she said, pointing to a spot on her wrist. "But I’m afraid it will hold me back if I ever want to move up in my career."
"It sounds like you’re making decisions for people you haven’t even met yet," I said. "And maybe you never will. Who knows where you’ll be working, or who you’ll be working with? They might not mind."
Though I could relate to her worries. After all, this story isn’t really about tattoos.
It’s about the ways fear of judgement and lack of acceptance erodes joy, confidence, and self-expression.
It’s about the ways we...
What is the point of reading tarot?
Whenever I explain to someone that I believe the future is yet to be created, a question predictably follows:
"Then what’s the point of reading tarot?"
I get where the question is coming from: So many people assume tarot is all about future-telling.
So explain that I read tarot because the cards are a tapestry of possibility. A reading gives you the chance to draw a map of your potential.
I read tarot because it lays out the ideas, thoughts, and feelings that are bouncing around within your head and heart and allows you to get a clearer perspective on what it all means.
I read tarot because it’s an opportunity to sit down with yourself and ask, "What do I really want to make happen right now?"
I read tarot because it gives you the freedom to be yourself by validating your feelings, instincts, and ideas.
There’s a reason why I don’t believe that the future is neatly mapped out for you: If it was, why would you need to make any...
Sometimes reading tarot can feel frustrating.
You might get cards that don’t seem to fit the question, or see something you didn’t expect to come up.
And readings can also feel like they’re just not hitting the right points to feel productive.
When I got my first tarot reading in the late `90s, I was amazed at how helpful it was.
And I held onto a lot of the information I received that day. It became important to me, and
gave me hope for the future.
Which is what I set out to do when I started reading tarot for others.
I do this work to help other people, first and foremost.
And I’m sure you do, too.
Over the years, I’ve seen what tarot can do for people: I’ve had clients who’ve made huge life changes, grown more confident, and gotten clearer about who they are and where they’re going.
But not every tarot reading goes that way.
Sometimes you might not always feel a reading went as deep, or was as productive as you’d hoped.
There are some...
It’s not always easy to dedicate yourself to something like tarot.
One of the hardest things for me to reconcile on this path is how dismissive skeptics and non-believers can be towards anything they perceive as too “out there,” too esoteric, or too spiritual.
Some people genuinely love to hate on anything they see as “woo,” including tarot.
No matter how many ways you try to explain that tarot is about so much more than a gimmicky parlor trick, there are some people out there who just don’t want to hear it.
I’ve written before about my thoughts on skeptics. The short version is that I don’t feel it’s my role to convert anyone. I’m not interested in telling people what they should or shouldn’t believe in, and I don’t get caught up in any ideas that everyone has to like the same things I do.
What I do wish I could change, however, is the pervasive assumption that anyone who is interested in tarot (or related...
Recently, I’ve been trying to think about how my tarot practice evolved into what it is today in terms of the habits and beliefs I’ve built around my processes.
There are so many things that we learn about practices like tarot on our own, through trial and error, experience and reflection.
It’s not possible to learn everything from a teacher, mentor, class, or book. Our knowledge builds from so many different sources, influences, and experiences.
Here are a few things no one ever taught me about tarot, but that I learned to do along the way all the same:
1. It’s okay to take a moment to study the cards you’ve pulled before delivering any messages.
When I’m reading tarot for someone, I don’t launch into the reading the moment the cards are pulled. I always take my time to see what’s shown up, look for patterns or other interesting details, and consider the elements that are present.
Sometimes this long pause makes querents nervous,...
Like any tool, tarot can be helpful.
But only when used correctly.
I hope this doesn’t sound controversial – it shouldn’t, because it’s true: Not every tarot reading will feel magical, special, significant, or even important.
That can apply to readings you do for yourself, as well as for others.
It’s one thing to have a reading fall flat for yourself.
But it’s a whole other ballgame if you’re reading for someone else. Even if it’s just for fun for a friend or family member, you might still want that reading to feel productive for them.
Often, the issue is not with tarot itself. Instead, readings can feel unproductive or unhelpful because the question being asked isn’t clear, or isn’t suitable for tarot.
It can also happen that the question is being asked far too often, or touches on something that doesn’t need to be explored for whatever reason.
Sometimes life is humming along just fine. Not all situations need to be...
Do you ever feel like you’re stuck on asking the same few questions whenever you pull out your tarot cards?
Like anything else, tarot can get stale over time. It’s not unusual for readers to get a bit bored or feel disconnected to tarot, no matter how much they love it.
We are human, after all, and tarot is like any other relationship. Sometimes we feel deeply aligned and in flow, and other times we might feel as though we’ve grown apart.
Over the years, I’ve had numerous moments where I craved tarot and was compelled to give myself a reading. But when I sat down with my cards, I realized I wasn’t sure why I felt that, or what I wanted to read on.
We don’t always have to go over the same topics or types of questions with tarot. There are popular go-to questions like, “What should I focus on right now?” Or, “What do I need to know right now?” that aren’t bad inquiries on their own.
But like anything else, they can...