Today, I want you to think about something you really want to accomplish.
Maybe you want to launch a new business in the next six months.
Maybe you want to run a marathon next year.
Maybe you want to learn a new language.
Maybe you want to write an album, or a book, or build an artistic career.
Whatever it is, I want you to hold onto it for a moment.
What does fear have to do with your goal? Maybe it influences your actions a little, or a lot. Maybe fear is what is keeping you from moving forward right now.
Maybe you’ve found yourself thinking, “If I knew there a good chance this plan would work out, I would do it for sure.”
Maybe you’re waiting for that sign, confirmation, or guarantee.
I think I’m a pretty good person to talk to about fear, though probably not for the same reasons people expect.
In my work as a tarot reader, I often answer questions about goals: People look to tarot for certainty, outcomes, and predictions.
Back in March, when things first started to close up in response to the pandemic, my friends and I were – in hindsight – naïve about how long this was really going to last.
I was on my way to the gym one morning when a friend I chat with there was on his way out. “It’s closed,” he said. The sign on the door had just gone up. We walked a couple blocks together and when our directions split off we said, “See you in fourteen days, I guess!”
My friends who have local shops all said the same. They hung signs on their doors that said, “We’ll be back again soon!”
Still, two weeks without bars, restaurants, gyms, and stores seemed long – especially when we’ve gotten so used to our 24/7, go, go, go lifestyles.
Ah, how quaint it all seems now when I look on it. How cute! We thought we would be back to “normal” in a matter of days.
A few weeks into this new normal, I started to realize that this was...
Do you want to be of service?
I know I do. Being of service is one of the reasons I became a tarot reader.
And I know that a lot of you out there feel the same, whether you read tarot yourself or use it for guidance in your life.
A lot of us who are committed to spiritual growth and intuitive development are often people who also want to heal ourselves, and others.
And so it makes sense that a lot of set out to find paths that allow us to be of service.
How? There are many ways we can be of service:
Volunteer work through a charity or community centre, lending a hand to a neighbour or family member, or pursuing a career path to puts you on the front lines are just a few examples.
Before I landed on my tarot journey, I wanted to be a writer. But when I was looking into college courses, I also considered a social work program.
I ended up in journalism, feeling that it was a good way to bridge the two. Later, after I transitioned out of the media industry, I started working on...
“Boundary” is a word that seems to be on everyone’s lips lately.
And with so much confusion, tension, and uncertainty in our world right now, boundaries are becoming more important than ever for our own individual self-care.
But while boundaries can be easy to identify, they are not always easy to enforce. Guilt and insecurity can sabotage your boundaries faster than you can say “no.”
Read on for my tips and practices to help you get clear about boundaries.
First: Everyone needs boundaries.
No matter how open, helpful, or available you want to be.
Boundaries serve an important purpose: They protect your time, energy, and feelings.
Healthy boundaries help you take control of your schedule, prevent drama, and deepen your relationships.
Yes, that’s right: Good boundaries can actually bring you closer to the people you love.
Sometimes we shy away from stating or setting our boundaries because we worry that it might push someone away, hurt...
Ego is something you hear about a lot.
It comes up in spiritual conversations, therapy sessions, tarot readings, and self-help books.
Maybe you’ve talked about your own ego, or felt the weight of someone else’s ego.
We all know at least one person who’s got a larger-than-life ego.
Take my late friend, Nik Beat, who was a poet and performer. Nik used to introduce himself on stage by saying, “The ego has landed.”
But is ego bad, or good?
Something I hear a lot from my clients and students is that they worry about making “ego-based decisions.”
When we dig a little deeper into what they mean, there is usually a lot of guilt under that statement:
Guilt about being selfish, putting yourself first, or prioritizing your happiness.
Is it wrong to follow an ambition? Is it wrong to enjoy your life?
I don’t think so.
To be honest, if I always put my own desires last, then I wouldn’t have done much so far.
A lot of people...
One thing I did not expect to emerge through this global pandemic is the number of conspiracy theories that are out there.
Just as this virus continues to spread, so does the suspicion about it all.
Spiritual communities are rampant with it, including the tarot world. Which surprises me, but then it doesn’t.
Spirituality and conspiracy theories have often shared space together. One of my earliest exposures to this crossover was here in Toronto in the ‘90s.
My friends and I would go downtown on the weekends where we would run into a religious group on Yonge Street. They would stand on the street handing out flyers warning against the coming age of microchipping, which they believed would signal the arrival of the anti-Christ. The chip was “the mark of the Beast.”
But I’m not going to go into a big, long list of various theories out there, old or new. My point in bringing this detail up is to say that I’ve heard a lot of different ideas over...
The end of the year can be one of the busiest seasons for tarot readings.
Everyone wants to know what’s coming up in the year ahead:
"Will this be the year I find love?"
"Will my business be more profitable?"
"Will I move or change jobs?"
Overall, these are pretty common questions that people bring to tarot readers all year round – regardless of the calendar date.
Which is why, a couple of years ago, I started to question my own attachment to doing New Year’s readings for my community.
One thing that I grappled with was that life is not linear. Many of the things we are hoping for don’t just magically fall into place just because we changed the date on the calendar.
And so to expect that a certain date is going to signify something – be it love, success, or any other kind of goal – didn’t feel quite right.
Especially because some of the things we are hoping for in the New Year require some kind of planning or action.
I also realized that New...
I have a lot of goals.
I’ve always been one to make bucket lists, New Year’s lists, to-do lists, constantly keeping an eye on the short and long-term.
So often, I’ve look at other people who see to be moving towards their dreams and would ask, “How do you it all?”
For years I felt like I was living a double-life: I wrote three books in six years, all while working 35 hours a week on top of it.
It definitely wasn’t easy, because of course I didn’t just have work and writing to focus on. I also had to take care of myself with the small things – groceries, laundry, errands – and maintain my relationships, and find some down time here and there.
But I’ve learned a lot about prioritizing, staying focused, and being realistic about my needs vs. my ideals.
These days, there is one thing I do to make sure I keep moving towards my goals on a daily basis: Before I get ready to go to bed, I write down my three most important...
As we get closer to the end of the calendar year, I am conscious of what I’m taking on, wrapping up, or casting away.
Time will pass either way. Calendars change, seasons move on, birthdays come and go. Yes, the marking of time can feel arbitrary in some ways.
Yet it’s hard to deny that there isn’t some kind of energetic shift that takes place when a new year begins.
We make resolutions, and set intentions. We think of what might be possible, and how life might be different.
A change in time feels like a line being drawn in the sand between the past and the future. It’s an opportunity to leave things in the distance, and to move towards new experiences.
As the year winds down, I start to clear things out: Old papers get shredded, books and clothes get put into a donation pile.
And I also become even more conscious of what I’m saying yes and no to. I like things to be finished and closed off at the end of the year so that I have a clear head, and a clear...
“How long will it take to learn tarot?”
I often hear this question from new tarot students, and aspiring readers who want to go from beginner to pro fast.
Truthfully, there is no one answer to this. How long it takes to learn something like tarot depends on a lot of factors, such as:
What your goals are as a tarot reader;
How much time you put into learning; and
Your methods of study and practice.
I spent about 7 years studying, learning and practicing before I launched my tarot business.
To some, that might sound like an awfully long time. To others, it might not sound long at all - I know plenty of people who still consider themselves tarot beginners after studying for longer.
It's not a race and there is no definitive timeline to follow. How long it takes it relative to who you are, how you approach your tarot studies, and how proficient you become in your card reading skills.
I didn’t start out with business as an end goal, and that influenced my path - because I...